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How to Stop Self-sabotaging Behaviors

August 5, 2019 / by Don Connelly / Best Practices / 0 comments

Behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with your life and goals. You may well be self-sabotaging without even realizing it.

There are many reasons you could be self-sabotaging – from holding dysfunctional beliefs to underestimating your abilities. If you don’t understand if and why you’re performing these types of actions, you will end up in a cycle of ever-increasing patterns of self-defeat. And these patterns are difficult to escape from.

Here are some common self-sabotaging behaviors you may be guilty of, with a look at why you may be doing them and how to stop.

Self-sabotage – 10 Behaviors to Avoid

December 3, 2018 / by Don Connelly / Best Practices / 0 comments

Self-sabotaging behaviors can create problems, interfere with goals and ultimately put your career at risk. Without even realizing it you could be a victim of self-sabotage. Be honest and identify the traits that are holding you back so you can make the positive changes required to move forward.

Here are ten ways you could be self-sabotaging – along with some recommendations on how to do things better.

You Don’t Need to Be Better – You Need to Be Different

June 4, 2018 / by Don Connelly / Marketing Yourself / 0 comments

As Steve Jobs said, ‘Don’t do something better, do it different’. Facebook wasn’t necessarily ‘better’ than Myspace, it was different. Netflix wasn’t ‘better’ than any other movie-rental system – it was different. Make yourself authentic and you will succeed. Find out what it is that differentiates you from the competition and communicate it to prospects and clients.

Concentrate on developing superb soft skills and you will stand out in a crowded marketplace without trying to be ‘better’ than anyone else.

Avoid These Ten Mistakes to Improve Your Financial Advisor Business

June 5, 2017 / by Don Connelly / Best Practices / 0 comments

We’ve been getting plenty of questions about common mistakes Financial Advisors make so here’s a quick roundup of things you should avoid doing if you want to take your Financial Advisor business to the next level.

You Don’t Have to Fear The Competition

February 6, 2017 / by Don Connelly / Marketing Yourself / 0 comments

You, like many other advisors, may feel you work in a highly competitive environment where the competition is trying to outmaneuver you every step of the way. In reality, however this isn’t the case. As is true of any profession, most of your competitors are not fully engaged on most days. They show up for work each day unmotivated or with an ambivalent attitude. If you, unlike other advisors, develop superb soft skills, have a great work ethic, and exude positivity – you’ve already beaten the competition hands down.

Take Action Now if You Want to Succeed as a Financial Advisor

August 29, 2016 / by Don Connelly / Best Practices / 0 comments

Financial advisors often fail or stay at a mediocre level because they procrastinate. They don’t understand that success requires looking to the future, setting goals and working hard to achieve those goals. Instead many advisors think they can get by day by day on the bare minimum. Unfortunately, success doesn’t just ‘happen’. No matter how talented you are your star won’t rise unless you get proactive about growing your business.

Don’t Compare Yourself to Others – Focus on Your Own Success

April 4, 2016 / by Don Connelly / Best Practices / 0 comments

Comparing yourself to other advisors and idealizing their qualities while underestimating your own abilities is a self-defeating habit, yet many advisors constantly do this. Believing that there are other advisors out there who are “better”, “more accomplished” or “more successful” than you can set you on a downward spiral because you feel you can’t measure up.

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