Sociability Is the Skill of Interacting Well with Others

Social Skills for Financial Advisors

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The definition of sociability sounds mild: the quality or state of being sociable. The significance of sociability is anything but.

Sociability spawns likeability and likeability cannot be overstated in a business based on strong relationships.

People do business with people they like. An Advisor who does not have good social skills is probably not going to be likeable; and Advisors who are not likeable don’t last too long. They just don’t interact well.

Being likeable by no means guarantees success in our industry.

But it is nonetheless a critical social skill, especially when things aren’t going well. It makes up for a lot. Think of those times when you’ve seen a politician’s job approval rating drop, yet his or her likeability remains high. They live to fight another day.

To be sociable is to gather assets. To be sociable is to attain and retain clients. To be sociable is to weather the storms so persistent in the life of an Advisor-client relationship.

Like leadership skills, some people are born with social skills and others acquire them over time.

Naturally sociable people are outgoing, friendly and positive by nature. They put people at ease. They are fun to be around.

If you don’t feel you are terribly sociable, the remedy is near at hand.

Work on your communication skills.

Advisors who communicate clearly are both liked and admired. Sharpen your skills of persuasion. Persuasive people are charismatic. Treat everyone well. React favorably to people. Don’t be macho. Listen with interest. Focus on what you can do for the other guy. Make people feel good about themselves. Add value.

You’ve got to be a consummate professional, yet be deferential at the same time.

This all sounds easy. It is anything but, especially when the expectation is that you be businesslike. If we don’t go far enough, we run the risk of appearing aloof. If we go too far, we run the risk of appearing suave. Like any other important skill, being sociable requires practice.

The goal of any Financial Advisor is to have more than a few successful long-term relationships going at all times.

Watch the Managing the Relationship Introduction video in “Tools of the Trade” on Don Connelly 24/7.

Doing anything for the short-term will damage at best, and destroy at worst, a long-term relationship. Such an action will get you disliked (and distrusted) immediately.

You can assume, when you see a fellow Advisor lauded by his or her clients, that the Advisor has great relationship-building skills. Those skills don’t come overnight and they begin with resisting temptation.

There are social skills we haven’t mentioned here, of course, but this is a good starter kit.

The implementation of these skills will make you fun to be around. That’s huge. Clients don’t want a PhD in finance. They want to educate their kids and relax in their old age.

They don’t want barrels on information. They what to find someone they can trust. Trust is the belief that you are reliable, honest and good at what you do.

They can’t trust you until they know you; and they won’t attempt to get to know you until they like you. Simple. Not easy, but simple.

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  • My story

    Reading Don Connelly’s Blog post instinctively reminded me of my grandfather and father. They were such powerful influencers in my life that I included them in my LinkedIn summary.

    As a means of conveying my thoughts to what Don wrote, I’m attaching part of it. Thank you for reading………………

    ………………”My grandfather never told me why he had numbers tattooed on his arm, and as a child, I was told to never ask. Growing up, I always remembered how people gravitated towards him. Years passed, and after learning he was a survivor of the Theresienstadt concentration camp in Czechoslovakia, it impressed me how he squashed those horrid memories and was always able to win people’s immediate trust in all his encounters. He was impressively popular in Prague”.

    “At 16, I remember asking my dad, ”How is it, that everywhere we go, you not only know so many people, but they address you as if you were a celebrity?” It was unusually rare that they both shared this presidential-like quality of being able to emotionally connect with people”.

    “In September 1991, I had an epiphany. My grandfather and father’s charisma were unlike any I’ve known, and my future success depended on embracing their ”people skill” aptitudes. That was my ”Ah ha” moment. Embarking on a personal campaign to channel their talents, I was privileged in developing and perfecting my deeply rooted client relationship building skills”.

  • Marty: Great stories move people. You are part of this story and it’s a great one. Prospects and clients alike want to know who you are. Keep telling your story!

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